Help! Moving to Hawaii I think, I could really use advice. ?
I know this will be a little long. But I will try and keep it short.
I am 27. I live in Los Angeles, Hollywood. I like it here, love it mostly. But for the past 3 years or so, I have been very unhappy with my life, so I am looking for a temporary change to get me into a new mentality (yes I have tried therapy and drugs, no help! lol).
Here is my situation:
I have a decent job right now, with plenty of growth opportunity, pay is just ok, not great, but they are taking advantage of me. I know I will keep growing there, but I **** the management and I think that is why I am unhappy there, plus the commute is 80 miles per day. And extremely high stress. I want to work for myself again, but the ideas have been a bit slow lately. The ideas I have partialy pursued, my good research skills prove it to be a bad move, thankfully before I invest. But it doesn’t take away the let down feeling.
I live in Hollywood, love my roommates, pay 1000 per month, not bad.
I don’t have friends I hang out with daily. I am pretty much a loner (by choice, I want to break it). I always choose to be by myself, one of the reasons I want to try Hawaii, make new friends, relearn what it is like to enjoy peoples company. Pretty much been in a funk since my ex broke my heart 2 years ago. I don’t want her back, but cant move on. Change of scenery will help.
The main reason for not leaving, my family. I will miss them terribly. My mom, dad and brother.
So here is my thinking, please tell me if I am nuts.
1. I don’t have a girlfriend, wife, kids or financial responsibilities. I just made my last car payment.
2. The economy sucks, so if I am just waiting it out, why not wait it out there?
3. I will miss my family, but we can video chat everyday.
4. I can make new friends out there, change my lifestyle and routine, maybe become less of a loner.
5. I love Hawaii. It is the only place I have ever felt relaxed. (Ocean front only).
6. I have a crush on a girl at Sensei (she has no idea I exist, but for past 2 vacations I have seen her, and never got the opportunity to talk to her. Stupid story, and reason, but added to the list anyway!
7. I think this would be a life experience worth pursing. Could change my life. I want to learn to surf, play the guitar, and work on my health. I could get a low stress night job, or a phone sales job early in the morning (I was always really good at b2b phone sales, I manage 3 data companies now and we are very successful due to my teachings and management) this would give me the ability to enjoy my day and night. Currently, I work 10 hours, commute 3 hours, and feel like a drown when I get home and close the door by myself.
The reasons not to go?
1. I have a job that could get me higher and higher if I am willing to stick with shady and evil bosses trying to mold me to be like them.
2. I will miss my family.
3. I will be putting my career on hold, having a low paying job and eating into savings.
4. I will have to sell my furniture and maybe car. But I can always buy new stuff.
Ok…. If anyone read this and replies, thank you for taking the time.
If you do think I should try it, should I go to Maui or Oahu?
Maui – more relaxing, Less expensive, and I have a friend who lives on the island (plus I have a crush on that girl).
Oahu – more like LA, More expensive, but better chance in getting a job similar to my current pay.
I am looking at ocean front rooms with roommates on craigslist, so far, cheaper than living in LA, go figure.
Please hurry, I am eating away at my brain.
Oh, and if it makes a difference, my birthday is Feb 20, Cusp of Pisces
THANK YOU EVERYONE! Sorry for spelling errors, don’t have spell check on this computer.
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May 31st, 2010 at 2:45 pm
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the economy does sux but will u hv a job in hawaii? think about that and du u hv a houyse?
June 3rd, 2010 at 2:54 am
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I had a relative that moved to Maui. A doctor who had been sought out by a hospital there, so had a good job going in.
He had heard of Island Fever, but never thought it could get him. It did.
He found that phones and internet connections did not compare to hugs and sitting across the room from family for idle late night chat.
He was discouraged by the quality of some medical industry that he observed, but as the outsider had no voice to create improvement.
He heard lots of stories of people who went over expecting to find work and running out of money and having to call home for a return ticket!
Better have your friend check out job availability in your field for you before you move there! Many Hawaiians are working 2 jobs to keep up with their needs!
Why don’t you consider something like Santa Barbara? It has the beaches. It is more laid back than Hollywood/LA. There is more work available. If you want a change of scene you can drive to the desert, the mountains, or the culture of LA area.
With all the students at the University of California, you could likely find friends there! Take a couple of classes to meet some of them. Take classes based on your interests so you meet others interested in the same thing!
Think long and hard before moving to a small island so far from your roots.